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I am trying to get my wife to try a threesome. (She is a little shy.) How can i convince my wife to try it?

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When my wife and i first got together she had mentioned a few times how she would really enjoy eating another girl out while I was doing her (my wife). Of course it turned me on but I had mentioned how it would be nice to have interactions with both of them. It was that point that I probally blew it, as most people say just take it slowly and don't make her feel insecure about the relationship.


We have been together for a while now and openly talk about sex. Recently I have brought it up a couple times with my wife. The first time we were just laying on the couch watching T.V. while I was inside here just relaxing and cuddling. We often watch porno together and go to strippers but at this moment we weren't. I had asked to her to remember when she had told me about her fantasy and she said she did. She said that she doesn't think it would be as appealing as it use be. I believe that with time she has got attatched and not as open. But then I asked if she would ever do it, no rush, and just curious about what her fantasies might be now and how I could please her. She shrugged her shoulders and couldn't come up with anything. I then mentioned that it could be fun and take it on her terms and that I might even allow a MMF to happen. She had said she has never thought about it but I started to talk about how it would be a turn on to see her blowing another guy while i was doing her and possibly vice versa. We ended up having incredible sex there as both of our imaginations were running wild. After sex I had mentioned that she seemed to really enjoy it and she said the sex was great but no threesomes now, maybe in the future.


The a few weeks later I had brought it up again while cuddling in our bed. And asked if she gave it any thought. She had mentioned to me that it is hard to do because one person normally becomes more intimate and that emotions go running wild. She knows from experience cause she has had a threesome before we met, and to be honest Im jealous cause I love her very much but have never done it or half the things she has ever! I told her that for me it would be pretty easy to drop all emotions and leave it at straight sex as I am only in love with her and would just like to please her and fulfill her. She is a very loyal and loving lady and says she's confused about why I would think another man when I wouldn't be happy if she cheated but it would be ok if I was there. I let her know that while I wouldn't like seeing affection, just leaving it at sex and having her kept busy with two of us and to see her enjoying herself was all i was after. She then said she would probally be more comfortable with another woman but thinks I might get to intimate and again the emotions. She said we have to be very secure with each other and maybe in the future. We then started to have sex and talk about it while doing it and again had amazing sex. I made the mistake of bringing it up too soon a few days later and she had asked me why i keep fantasizing about it lately and it seems to be all we talk about. I let her know how into it she gets during sex and am just wanting to please her. Its not that Im trying to obsess on it its just the point of whatever she wants and have made her feel a little more easy about bringing up fantasies with me. She agrees but just wanted to wait a while.


So my conclusion out of this and to all of your stories is that I agree not to push or force. Having a man with her scares me a bit too of her getting to intimate but on the other hand I am willing to do just about anything to please her and make her fantasies come true and keep our relationship exciting. I know she is adventurous but doesn't want to loose me as neither do I want to loose her. And as most of you had said, if there is any doubt don't do it and thats what she has been expressing that all along and obviously has some doubt. But as for now we will just leave it at a fantasy cause honestly just talking about it while engaging with sex with each other is quite hot and very fulfilling!


I would say the best thing anyone can take from this is to be open, trusting and COMMUNICATE with their partner. We will take it from there and who knows what happens. But as I learned communication isn't one sided. Listen, and I do mean fully listen...

A male reader, anonymous